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April Possibilities Meeting: Self-Care and The Closet

April 17, 2018 @ 6:30 pm - 8:30 pm

In April, we’ll be talking about self-care and the closet.

We’ll be talking about dominant narratives about the closet, and all the ways in which the closet is complex – it can be oppressive but it can also be freeing, and there are many ways to approach the idea of closets and coming out.

At the Advanced Narrative Practices teaching block (the reason I wasn’t at the March meeting!) I had the honour of meeting and learning from Sekneh Hammoud-Beckett, whose paper “Azima ila Hayati – an invitation in to my life : narrative conversations about sexual identity” introduces the idea of “inviting in” rather than “coming out,” which can be more culturally resonant for the Muslim youth that she works with. The conversations we had in class, combined with the conversations we’ve had in other Possibilities events about when we come out and when we don’t, inspired this topic. I think there’s a lot here, and I also think that we can pool our collective knowledge to create a resource that might help other queer folks resist the overwhelming pressure to see coming out as an obligation – a hurdle to be passed before you’re allowed into the “good queer” club.

(If anyone wants to read Sekneh Hammoud-Beckett’s paper ahead of the event, let me know!)

And as always, I’ll be generating a resource following this conversation and you are welcome to participate in that conversation whether you attend the event or not. If you have Thoughts and Opinions about The Closet and about coming out/inviting in, but you won’t be able to attend the event, just get in touch with me.

You can see the first of our collective documents here, extending our November discussion about queerness and physical self-care – http://tiffanysostar.com/queerness-and-physical-self-care-resource/

And the second, about queerness and holiday self-care, here – tiffanysostar.com/holiday-self-care-resource/

And the third, winter self-care for weary queers, here – http://tiffanysostar.com/winter-self-care-for-weary-queers/

And the fourth, self-care in queer relationships, here – tiffanysostar.com/self-care-in-queer-relationships-resource/

Our April meeting will be on April 17, from 6:30-8:30 PM at Loft 112. There will be conversation, complexity, and, most importantly, community.

We also have a set time, date, and location for our next six months of Possibilities events – you’ll find us on the third Tuesday of each month, from 6:30-8:30, at Loft 112. There is a small fee associated with renting this space, and you can support the event by either donating at the event or becoming a Patreon supporter.

We have a new focus on self-care and self-storying for the bi+ community (bisexual, pansexual, and asexual, with an intentional focus on trans inclusion), and a new framework for sustainability (you can now support this work by backing the Patreon at http://www.patreon.com/sostarselfcare).

There is no cost to attend.

This is an intentionally queer, feminist, anti-oppressive space. The discussion will be open, as they always were, to all genders and orientations, as well as all abilities, educational levels, classes, body types, ethnicities – basically, if you’re a person, you’re welcome!

It is important to note that Possibilities Calgary is a community discussion group and not a dating group.


April 17, 2018
6:30 pm - 8:30 pm


LOFT 112
Loft 112, 535 8 Avenue SE
Calgary, AB T2G 5S9 Canada
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